PROGRAM MATERIALSusing journals

Each participant will receive a binder full of materialsand a guide for weekly journaling subjects and questions, including the following topics:

Consciousness

  • Approaches to NVC
  • Consciousness Shift
  • Daily Gratitude
  • Daily Mourning and Learning
  • Daily Practice
  • Deepening Needs Consciousness
  • Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC
  • Keys to the Basics of NVC
  • Taking Responsibility for Our Actions
  • Tracking Growth
  • Transforming Enemy Images
  • Transforming Judgments of Others
  • Translating Right/Wrong Thinking

Empathy

  • Basic Concepts of The Empathy Process
    • Balancing Brevity and Connection
    • Connecting with Strategies and “Stories”
    • Content vs. Quality of Connection
    • Empathy vs. Sympathy and Identification
    • Empathic Sensing vs. Intellectual Guessing
    • Following vs. Leading
    • Guessing vs. Knowing – Letting Go
    • Question vs. Statement Phrasing
    • Staying with the Present vs. Analyzing
  • Empathy Groups
  • Empathy Group Leaders’ Tips
  • Empathy In Conflict
    • Concern About Seeming to Agree
    • Enemy Images
    • Letting Ourselves Be Moved
    • Needing Authenticity
    • Needing Empathy Ourselves
    • Trauma Response to Conflict
    • Unwillingness to Consider the Person’s Strategies
  • Empathy In Daily Life
    • Choice vs. Demand
    • Facing Judgments and the Needs Behind Them
    • Intensifying Emotions
    • Needing Acceptance
    • Option vs. Habit
    • Reacting to the Story
    • Receiving Empathy Skills
    • Silence in Response to Empathy
    • Words vs. Heart
  • Empathy for Support and Healing
    • Connecting with Needs
    • Empathic Expression
    • Fine-Tuning Depth
    • Matching Energy
    • Pacing and Silence
    • Self-Expression During Empathy
    • Sustained Empathy
    • Transitioning Out of Empathic Focus on One Person
    • Working with “Repetitive” Statements
  • Tips on Empathy Coaching
  • Translating into NVC – Empathy
  • Understanding Empathy
    • Giving and Receiving
    • Naturalizing the Language of Empathy
    • Non-Verbal Empathy
    • Repeating, Understanding, Translating into Feelings and Needs, and Empathy
    • The Purposes of Empathy
    • The Verbal Form of Empathy in NVC
    • What is Empathy? Being vs. Doing

Expression

  • Colloquial Giraffe Options
  • Expressing Anger
  • Expression for Connection
  • Colloquial Expression of Needs
  • Translating into NVC – Expression
  • Requests

Group Participation Skills

  • Group Participation Skills
  • If I Were Leading This Group
  • Interrupting Skills
  • Making Requests in a Group

Interdependence

  • Holding Everyone’s Needs
  • Making, Keeping, and Breaking Agreements with Care: Practice
  • Making, Keeping, and Breaking Agreements with Care: Reference

Internal Skills

  • Appreciating Ourselves in NVC
  • Consciousness Shift
  • Daily Gratitude
  • Daily Mourning and Learning
  • Daily Practice
  • Deepening Needs Consciousness
  • Empathy in Daily Life – Needing Acceptance
  • Facing “Demands”
  • Instructions for Life Labs
  • Learning from “Mistakes”
  • Journaling – NVC Learning Journal
  • Joy and Pain Journal
  • Moment of Choice Awakening
  • Moment of Choice Journal
  • Moment of Choice Keys
  • Mourning, Healing & Reconciliation – Keys
  • Shifting Focus When Connecting with Needs
  • Strategies for Responding to Challenging Messages
  • Taking Responsibility for Our Actions
  • Tracking Growth
  • Transforming Enemy Images
  • Translating Right/Wrong Thinking
  • Working with Feedback
  • Working with “No” to Deepen Self-Connection
  • Working with Our “Limitations”
  • Working with Our Mixed “Yes”

Interpersonal Skills

  • Authenticity and Vulnerability
  • see also EMPATHY
    • Empathy in Conflict
    • Empathy in Daily Life
  • Expressing Anger
  • Expression for Connection
  • Facing “Demands”
  • From Reaction to Conscious Response
  • Gratitude and Appreciation in NVC
  • See also GROUP PARTICIPATION SKILLS
  • Hearing “NO”
  • Interrupting Skills
  • Mourning, Healing & Reconciliation – Keys
  • Receiving Anger and Intensity
  • See also REQUESTS
  • Saying “NO” in NVC
  • Strategies for Responding to Challenging Messages
  • The NVC Tree of Life
  • Transforming Enemy Images
  • Transforming Judgments of Others
  • Triggering Statements
  • Use of Force
  • Working with Other’s Mixed “Yes”
  • Working with Our Mixed “Yes”

Leadership Skills

  • Appreciating Ourselves in NVC
  • CNVC Guidelines for Sharing NVC
  • Consciousness and Skills for NVC Leadership
    • Theoretical Understanding
    • Relationship with Self
      • Self Connection and Self Acceptance
      • Choice
    • Relationships with Others
      • Showing up
      • Fostering Connection
      • Living NVC with Others
    • Group Participation (as member and as leader)
    • Leadership
      • Living NVC While Teaching
      • Responding to Specific Challenges While Teaching
      • NVC Teaching Skills
      • Mediation
    • Skills for Living as an NVC Trainer
  • Despair about NVC Journal
  • Exploring “Unsafety”
  • NVC and Money
  • NVC and Other Modalities
  • NVC Communities
  • Self-Care and Support
  • Self-Connection About and While Leading Journal
  • Tracking Growth
  • Types of NVC Leadership Grid
  • Working with Feedback
  • Working with “Safety”

LP Program Components

  • Empathy Groups
  • Empathy Group Leaders’ Tips
  • Instructions for Life Labs
  • About Journaling
  • Journaling
  • NVC and Money
  • Personal Focus for the Retreat
  • Self-Assessment and Year-Long Plan

Mediation

  • Approaches to Conflict Resolution
  • Coaching Tips on Mediation
  • Mediation Protocol (for people new to NVC)
  • NVC Mediation: Principles

Mourning, Healing and Reconciliation

  • Mourning and Self-Compassion – Written Exercise
  • Mourning, Healing & Reconciliation – Keys

Parenting

  • Daily Mourning and Learning
  • Needs as Authentic Limits
  • Power Over, Power With
  • What is NVC Parenting

Power, Resources and Choice

  • Facing “Demands”
  • Moment of Choice Awakening
  • Moment of Choice Journal
  • Moment of Choice Keys
  • Needs as Authentic Limits
  • Power Over, Power With
  • Personal Power Self-Reflection
  • Use of Force
  • What is NVC Parenting

Requests

  • Enriching Life with Requests
  • Linking Connection Requests to Needs
  • Making Requests
  • Making Requests in a Group
  • Requests: Identifying Positive Action Language
  • Requests Including Both People’s Needs
  • Requests of Self and Others
  • Requests that Connect to Needs / Connecting Requests to Needs
  • Sample Connection Requests
  • The Heart of Requests – Needs
  • What Makes Requests Doable?

Self-Empathy

  • Almost all of the journals listed in other sections offer opportunities for deep self-empathy about a wide range of topics and experiences.

Social Change

  • Challenges around Diversity
  • Despair about NVC Journal
  • Exploring “Unsafety”
  • Loss of Innocence
  • Needs Met/Unmet in System
  • NVC and Money
  • NVC for Social Change: Core Strategies
  • Personal Power Self-Reflection
  • Power, Resources, and Choice
  • Social Structures
  • Use of Force
  • What is NVC Parenting

Spirituality

  • Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC
  • NVC and Other Modalities
  • NVC and Spirituality

Teaching

  • Clarity in giving instructions
  • Feedback Giving
  • Empathy Groups
  • Empathy Group Leaders’ Tips
  • Leading Challenging Groups
  • Planning an Intro to NVC
  • Preparing for a Role Play
  • Responding to Challenging Questions When Teaching NVC
  • Role-plays Reflection
  • Self-Connection About and While Leading
  • Tips for Working with Self-judgments About Teaching
  • Tips on Empathy Coaching
  • Transparent Facilitation: Principles and Guidelines
  • The NVC Tree of Life
  • Types of Role Plays / “Role Beings” – Chart
  • Types of Role Plays / “Role Beings” – Summary
  • Using Power When Teaching NVC
  • Using Stories When Teaching NVC
  • What Are You Afraid People Will Say…?
  • What’s Alive vs. What’s Planned
  • Working with “Dead” Groups

Theoretical Understanding 
Most of our reference materials in other sections contribute to deepening participants’ theoretical understanding.

  • Reference: Approaches to Conflict Resolution
  • Reference: Approaches to NVC
  • Basics of Nonviolent Communication
  • Colloquial Expression of Needs
  • Conventional Patterns of Communication
  • Feelings/Emotions – Partial List
  • Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC
  • Keys to the Basics of NVC
  • Needs as Authentic Limits
  • Non-Empathic Responses
  • Nonviolent Communication Quick Reference Guide
  • NVC and Money
  • NVC Key Differentiations
  • NVC Key Differentiations
  • Sample Connection Requests
  • Social Structures
  • The NVC Tree of Life
  • Understanding Empathy
  • Unique Features of NVC as a Feedback-Giving Tool
  • Universal Human Needs – Partial List
  • What is NVC Parenting